Glad you found the distinction between interests and values useful. It took me a while to figure this out because I found myself often drawn to be with people who had different interests to me. And because society tells us we need to share our friend’s interests, I always thought that, even though those were the people I loved to be with most, there must be something wrong with our friendship because we don’t share many interests. It really helped me when I made the connection and realised that the reason I was drawn to these people was because of shared values, and the degree to which we shared interests didn’t matter much. It’s really liberating to realise this, because then you don’t have to say “yes” to doing stuff you don’t like doing – and neither do your friends. And then the relationship becomes more about two authentic people connecting honestly than two people trying to be the same/ share the same interests/ do everything together. It’s a much richer and more rewarding experience. And I love that blogs are a great way for people to hang out with people all over the world who share their values, without any geographic limitations.

Thanks for stopping by, Brooke! And I’ve been enjoying the stuff you’re writing too
Cath

I really liked the distinction between finding people with common interests and similar values. I tend to get excited when I meet people that share common interests but then find myself bored if there is no deeper thread to connect on. For example, one of my values is traveling and connecting with other people and sharing new experiences & cultures. Sometimes I find someone who is interested in travel, but it may just be for fun. I’ve found myself disappointed at times thinking I’ve really connected with someone, only to find out later it was just a common interest.

I love the idea of finding your tribe. I definitely feel like blogging is a fantastic way to do that… when you are putting yourself out there authentically ~ people can see who you are and what you think. It’s great.

Thanks for sharing!!
B

Cath

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