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		<title>Ask Cath: How Do I Figure Out My Passion and Purpose?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[I often get questions from people, via email, Facebook  and Twitter, and they're such great questions that I've decided that I'm going to start sharing these questions (and my answers to them) with you occasionally. I'm hoping that this'll be useful to you for two reasons: firstly, to get answers to some of the questions you're asking, but perhaps more importantly, so that you realize that you're not the only person asking these sorts of questions. I know that at the times when I've grown most and gained the confidence to take a bigger step out into the world - a step I had been too afraid to take before, the thing that facilitated that perspective shift and the confidence to overcome my fears was hearing that other people (even the ones that look totally sorted!) struggle with the same fears, self-doubts and tough questions that I do. So without further ado, here's the first question, from the brilliant, Andrew Caldwell... ]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>I often get questions from people, via email, <a href="http://www.facebook.com/mineyourresources" target="_blank">Facebook</a> and <a href="http://twitter.com/cathduncan" target="_blank">Twitter,</a> and they&#8217;re such great questions that I&#8217;ve decided that I&#8217;m going to start sharing these questions (and my answers to them) with you occasionally. I&#8217;m hoping that this&#8217;ll be useful to you for two reasons: firstly, to get answers to some of the questions you&#8217;re asking, but perhaps more importantly, so that you realize that you&#8217;re not the only person asking these sorts of questions. I know that at the times when I&#8217;ve grown most and gained the confidence to take a bigger step out into the world - a step I had been too afraid to take before, the thing that facilitated that perspective shift and the confidence to overcome my fears was hearing that other people (even the ones that look totally sorted!) struggle with the same fears, self-doubts and tough questions that I do. So without further ado, here&#8217;s the first question, from the brilliant, <a href="http://leadersofthefreeworld.org/" target="_blank">Andrew Caldwell&#8230; </a></em><span id="more-2651"></span></p>
<h3>Andrew Caldwell from the USA says:</h3>
<p>&#8220;I&#8217;ve recently decided I&#8217;m heading back to the working world for a short guest appearance to get some cash reserves built-up. Long story short, I&#8217;m in a big, &#8220;What&#8217;s my passion, what do I REALLY want to do?&#8221; phase. I know I&#8217;ll end up doing something entrepreneurial, but I&#8217;m not sure exactly where I want to focus myself. I&#8217;m after an outsiders point of view, experience and recommendations on what I should pursue, bearing in mind what I already know about myself. Here are some notes I wrote recently:</p>
<blockquote><p><strong>Purpose, Values, Dreams</strong><br />
Not following the norm, Chivalry, Mannered, Classic, The Sitcom Dream (Writing), Continental Europe (Live &amp; Travel), Footloose &amp; Fancy Free, LIP (in terms of income), &#8220;Successful,&#8221; Minimalist, Online Income Streams, Family Values, I want an interesting life, To be in Control, Excited with everyday living</p>
<p><strong>Goals, What Do I Want to See, Feel and Experience?</strong><br />
Neutral Property Portfolio, To be fulfilled, Do something meaningful, To run a business, Travel, Have a family, To do something I&#8217;m passionate about, Something rewarding, To be in control</p>
<p><strong>What do I want to be known as?</strong><br />
Risk Taker, Go Getter, Hard Worker (ha!), Fit, Wealthy, Creative, Clever, Entrepreneur (This word is getting over used!), Well Traveled, Worldly</p>
<p><strong>What Am I Good at? Enjoy? Know about? Experienced in?</strong><br />
Traveled South East Asia, Logical Thinking, Analytical, Bachelor of Structural Engineer (ugh), the beach, living in the most remote city in the world (Perth, WA), cruising a motorbike along the coast, Investment Properties, Income Tax, Depreciation, Loans, Money, Finance, Budgeting, Social Media, Photography, learning, creating, businesses, being in control, de-cluttering, launching ideas, mobility, minimalism, technology, work flow &amp; business systems, simplifying, automation, kayaking, running.</p></blockquote>
<h2>Cath says:</h2>
<p>I love that you&#8217;re exploring this stuff! It&#8217;s the process of exploring what makes life purposeful and meaningful that develops depth in our lives and personalities, more than the actual answers you come up with. Good on you. And I know you&#8217;ve read Tim Ferriss&#8217; book, The Four Hour Work Week, so let me remind you that, as Tim says, this sort of total life evaluation and existential crisis is a normal reaction to when you first create total freedom for yourself to choose how you&#8217;ll spend your time each day, rather than just automatically following the masses and going to work in a big corporate from 9 to 5.</p>
<h3>Resource Alert:</h3>
<p><em>&#8220;I know I&#8217;ll end up doing something entrepreneurial, but I&#8217;m not sure exactly where I want to focus myself. I&#8217;m after an outsiders point of view, experience and recommendations on what I should pursue, bearing in mind what I already know about myself. Here are some notes I wrote recently&#8230;&#8221;</em></p>
<p>You&#8217;re clearly committed to reflection and self-awareness and you already know a lot about yourself. From what you&#8217;ve written about yourself, you&#8217;re pretty clear on your values, your &#8220;personal brand,&#8221; some of your goals and what you&#8217;re good at and enjoy doing. This awareness, and your answers to these questions are all precious resources, as is your healthy self-confidence.</p>
<h3>So how can you get un-stuck?</h3>
<p><strong>1. Look inside, not outside, for your purpose</strong><br />
<em>&#8220;I&#8217;m after an outsiders point of view, experience and recommendations&#8230;&#8221;</em></p>
<p>First I&#8217;m going to say the seriously stereotypical life coach thing that has to be said&#8230; nobody else can know or decide your life&#8217;s purpose. If something jumps out at them from this page, it&#8217;s because it resonates for them and might be something they need to incorporate into their life purpose, but they can&#8217;t know what you&#8217;re meant to live your life for. I know, it&#8217;s a cliche, but it&#8217;s true. Besides, as someone who values autonomy so highly, you&#8217;d feel crappy if someone else just &#8220;gave&#8221; you your life purpose - you&#8217;ll love owning the process and discovering the answers for yourself.</p>
<p>You won&#8217;t find your purpose in anybody else&#8217;s answers. You&#8217;ll find it and feel it within yourself. After-all, that&#8217;s what &#8220;lifestyle design&#8221; is really about - dropping the template life and all the expectations of how you &#8220;should&#8221; live your life, and choosing to design your life yourself.</p>
<p><strong>2. Define success for yourself</strong></p>
<p>Interesting that you put the word &#8220;successful&#8221; in inverted commas, but you didn&#8217;t do it for any of the other words you used&#8230; This word torments most of us and we&#8217;re all a slave to the idea that we have to be &#8220;successful&#8221; but we often haven&#8217;t really explored what success means to us. When we don&#8217;t articulate what success really means to us, we get driven by ideas about success that are being unconsciously programmed into us from the media. So I suggest you ask yourself, &#8220;What does success mean to me?&#8221; and &#8220;How will I know I&#8217;m successful?&#8221;</p>
<p>When we feel like we&#8217;re unsuccessful, we&#8217;re almost always using conventional societal definitions of success (how much money to you have?/ what job do you do?/ how much status do you have?/ how many properties do you own?/ how many children do you have?) - all stuff that research has shown has nothing to do with happiness. So write out your definition of success, and then question everything in it. The stuff that really matters to you will stay and the rest you&#8217;ll start to feel uncertain about. Then think back on your life and what&#8217;s given you the most happiness. Maybe that&#8217;s where your definition of success lies&#8230; Following the stuff that gives you a spontaneous happy feeling is a great clue to discovering and living your purpose.</p>
<p><strong>3. Separate the ideas of life purpose and work focus.</strong><br />
Work can be part of your life purpose, but it&#8217;s not your life purpose. If you think work and life purpose are the same thing, you&#8217;ll place too much importance on work and ignore other stuff in your life that&#8217;s a potential source of fulfillment (relationships, family, health, recreation, etc).</p>
<p><strong>4. Take a longer-term perspective and embrace the journey</strong><br />
Us Gen Y-ers have read all this stuff about how you *must* live your life purpose through your work&#8230; straight out of college! There&#8217;s this sense of &#8220;maybe I can skip the crappy phase of developing mastery and experience and just jump straight into work that&#8217;s purposeful, motivating, deeply meaningful, and using all the things I&#8217;m good at.&#8221;</p>
<p>My experience is that over time, I&#8217;ve developed my skills and that&#8217;s allowed me to make a more significant contribution, and that&#8217;s what makes my work more meaningful now. And I&#8217;m just a beginner still. The person I&#8217;ll be in another 10 years of learning, creating and contributing at work will be able to make a much more significant contribution than I can right now. Even if I knew what that contribution would be, I still couldn&#8217;t pull it off right now - I don&#8217;t have the skills and experience yet.</p>
<p>So what I&#8217;m saying is: you have a long life expectancy and you don&#8217;t have to treat today at the final assessment of your worth on this planet. Also, everyday you gain more experience and skill and make it possible to make a more useful and meaningful contribution to the world (through work or whatever else), so don&#8217;t treat it like a destination.</p>
<p>Take a longer-term perspective on the idea of purpose. When you&#8217;re 84 years old or so, are you going to look at this year and evaluate your life on that? Probably not. It&#8217;ll be more about the big picture. So add a little patience and recognize that anything you do now isn&#8217;t an assessment of your life&#8217;s worth. It&#8217;s just another opportunity to learn something else. And, as sacrilege as it sounds in the lifestyle design domain, you can learn stuff in employment that you can&#8217;t learn in self-employment (and vice versa, but either way, you always have opportunities to learn).</p>
<p>So think about the big picture and your values, then ask yourself, &#8220;what would I like to learn more about?&#8221; and then look for opportunities to learn more of that.</p>
<p><strong>5. Realize that you can cut out the middle-man and have what you really want right now</strong><br />
<em>&#8220;I want&#8230; to be in Control&#8230;&#8221;</em></p>
<p>You&#8217;ve mentioned the idea of being in control a few times. We all have a need to feel in control and autonomous, as though we&#8217;re directing our lives. That&#8217;s healthy. But be careful not to link the idea of autonomy with stuff like what sort of job you have, whether you&#8217;re self-employed, and how much money you make, etc. You can make lots of money and be an entrepreneur and still feel out of control. Feeling in control is just a feeling and so you can feel it, regardless of how much money/ power/ status you have. You don&#8217;t have to wait until you have more money or higher status in a company or have started your own business.</p>
<p>Feeling in control happens when you&#8217;re living your life consciously and choosing to create the life you want - in all the little ways. And feeling in control happens when you learn the skills for feeling the way you want to feel regardless of the circumstances around you. That&#8217;s real autonomy and self-control - when you choose your own thoughts and feelings and can create the experiences you want without making your thoughts and feelings dependent on events, other people, and circumstances.</p>
<p>A big trap of the whole &#8220;find my purpose&#8221; thing is the &#8220;I&#8217;ll be happy when&#8221; thing. When you&#8217;re telling yourself, &#8220;I&#8217;ll be happy when I&#8217;ve found and am living my purpose&#8221; then you&#8217;ll put off being happy right now. And now is all you have. Be happy right now and all the &#8220;nows&#8221; will add up to a life of fulfillment. And do stuff that is an expression of your values right now, even if it&#8217;s not the fullest expression you can imagine. Just have an interesting life, go against the norm, value family, be excited about life, and so on in whatever way you can right now. And all those &#8220;nows&#8221; of making conscious choices to live your values will add up to a fulfilled, purposeful life. And all the stuff you learn and the experience you gain along the way will allow you to make a more significant contribution in whatever stuff you choose to do with your time along the way. And that&#8217;s about as much control as anyone can hope to have over the path and direction of their life.</p>
<p>Good luck with the journey!</p>
<h2>And here&#8217;s the Twitter style answer</h2>
<p>Only you can decide your life purpose and define success for yourself. Realize that you can always have some of your life purpose right now, and there&#8217;s always more potential that&#8217;ll unfold with every day you add to your experience and skills.</p>
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		<title>The Good Things In Life Can&#8217;t Be Rushed&#8230; (or Making Art Instead of Setting Goals)</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Mar 2010 08:00:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I don't remember where I found this quote (Do let me know in the comments below if you know it's reference), but I found this "artwork" while I was sorting through my stuff in Cape Town, in preparation for our move to Canada. It's a visual representation of changes I wanted to make and "ways of being" or attitudes that I wanted to affirm within myself, and I created it in 2002. Seeing it now, I was hit with a rush of emotion and immediately remembered the strong feelings I had when I created this piece of artwork. And along with the strong emotion, I had a rush of memories of the insight I'd accrued back in 2002, that lead me to create this visual representation.]]></description>
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<blockquote><p>&#8220;If a stretch was any faster, it would be exercise.<br />
If a yawn were any faster, it would be a hiccup.<br />
If a smile were any faster, it would be a twitch.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p><span id="more-2485"></span>I don&#8217;t remember where I found this quote (Do let me know in the comments below if you know it&#8217;s reference), but I found this &#8220;artwork&#8221; while I was sorting through my stuff in Cape Town, in preparation for our move to Canada. It&#8217;s a visual representation of changes I wanted to make and &#8220;ways of being&#8221; or attitudes that I wanted to affirm within myself, and I created it in 2002. Seeing it nearly 8 years later, I was hit with a rush of emotion and immediately remembered the strong feelings I had when I created this piece of artwork. And along with the strong emotion, I had a rush of memories of the insight I&#8217;d accrued back in 2002, that lead me to create this visual representation.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve always been a very driven person and I&#8217;ve always loved creating, &#8220;working&#8221; and managing projects. As a result, I often take too much on and get lost down a rabbit hole of work, and I&#8217;m often quite impatient to see my ideas be made real in the world, which makes me all the more focused and &#8220;productive&#8221; (read: blinkered!).</p>
<p>I created this visual affirmation at a time in my life where I was re-evaluating my priorities and I was learning some hard lessons about the negative consequences of my impatience and total focus on my work projects. I was realizing how I was creating stress and frustration for myself. I was recognizing how my hyper-focus on my work had blinded my awareness of some of the beautiful, yet slow experiences in life, and I wanted to affirm a more patient perspective, where I could enjoy the journey, and recognize the value of time and the fact that some things lose their value when they&#8217;re rushed or forced in any way. I was recognizing in myself that some of my driven-ness was coming from a need to try to control my future and a fear of the uncertainty of the future, and I wanted to develop a greater trust in myself and in the idea that things would turn out okay even if I didn&#8217;t &#8220;manage&#8221; or push them or work hard at making them happen. I was realizing the value of just being and reflecting and feeling, rather then being busy doing all the time, and I was hungry for mental and emotional headspace - the kind of headspace I&#8217;ve always felt on roadtrips through Namibia, where the horizon seems endless.</p>
<p>And just looking at this picture, I feel like I&#8217;ve downloaded all this insight afresh into my consciousness again, at a time when I&#8217;ve found myself down that rabbit-hole of fascinating work that grabs all of my attention and pulls me into obsessiveness (and the lack of perspective that often arises when I stay too long in that obsession). It astounds me how powerful artwork can be, as a way of storing, recording and conveying insights, feelings and experiences over long stretches of time.</p>
<h3>And the biggest lesson of all - the thing that made me laugh out loud?</h3>
<p>There I was, worrying about whether things would be okay, back in 2002&#8230; and here I am now, knowing that things were okay. They were even better than okay.</p>
<p>And what&#8217;s more, I can trust that the universe will give me opportunities to gain the insight I need, just when I need it. Like the way this picture showed up in my life, 8 years later, just at a time in my life when I most needed to remember these lessons again.</p>
<h3>Art-making instead of goal-setting</h3>
<p>Does the idea of making pictures or sculptures sound more appealing than setting goals? It certainly does to me. And you know, I remember how the actual process of making this picture made me feel calmer and safer and clearer.</p>
<p>Since finding it the other day, I&#8217;ve set it as the screensaver on my computer, and it continues to take me to that same place of calmness, safety and clarity now, and to remind me to slow down and experience and appreciate life right now, and to enjoy the process of making my dreams a reality, rather than putting my happiness on hold until I see my dreams realized.</p>
<p>So give it a try. Think about something you&#8217;re struggling with right now, and feeling bad about. And then think about how you want to feel, and represent that visually through collage, drawing, paint, sculpture or whatever. Then ask yourself what you&#8217;d need to be believing about that situation, in order to feel the way you want to feel about it, and represent that too.</p>
<p>Enjoy the process, go with your gut, let yourself be surprised by the pictures you find yourself drawn to use, or the words or song lyrics that come to mind, and put it all down on paper. Most of all, enjoy feeling the way you want to feel when you&#8217;ve made your changes, right now&#8230; and let that drive your change, rather than fear or self-judgment.</p>
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		<title>How To Keep Moving And Creating What You Love When You Love Lots Of Things And You Don&#8217;t Have a Neat, Narrow Niche</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[I just got back from a wonderful retreat in Phoenix, Arizona, with the very smart and warm Charlie Gilkey, the inspirational and deeply grounded Pam Slim, and a bunch of wonderful, funny, fun, open-hearted and smart creative entrepreneurs (Crystal, Willie, Lori, Rachael, Kyle, Cheryl, Marissa, Avien, Ivan, Karen, Desiree, Angela and Patricia... miss you guys already! Here's a picture of us all.)

My main purpose for going to the retreat was to connect with like-minded people because, even with Twitter and Skype and all, online businesses can be pretty lonely - especially when the friends you do get to see and hug in the real world don't have online businesses and don't understand the challenges of being a solopreneur and working across the internet.

Another big area I wanted to explore and get some resolution on was the whole thing of my "long line" and my "essence" - the thing that, when people think about it, would make them think, "Ah, we should call on Cath for that..."]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I just got back from a wonderful retreat in Phoenix, Arizona, with the very smart and warm <a href="http://www.productiveflourishing.com">Charlie Gilkey,</a> the inspirational and deeply grounded <a href="http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com">Pam Slim,</a> and a bunch of wonderful, funny, fun, open-hearted and smart creative entrepreneurs (<a href="http://bigbrightbulb.com">Crystal,</a> <a href="http://williejackson.com">Willie,</a> <a href="http://theplanningcafe.com">Lori,</a> <a href="http://antithete.com">Rachael,</a> <a href="http://entrepreneurialadvocate.com">Kyle,</a> <a href="http://socialwows.com">Cheryl,</a> <a href="http://marissabracke.com">Marissa,</a> <a href="http://socialearth.com">Avien,</a> <a href="http://ivanmartinezphotography.com">Ivan,</a> <a href="http://openskyvideo.com">Karen,</a> <a href="http://www.desireeadaway.com">Desiree,</a> Angela and Patricia&#8230; miss you guys already! Here&#8217;s a <a href="http://www.ivanmartinezphotography.com/proofs_lo_2010">picture</a> of us all.)</p>
<p>My main purpose for going to the retreat was to connect with like-minded people because, even with Twitter and Skype and all, online businesses can be pretty lonely - especially when the friends you do get to see and hug in the real world don&#8217;t have online businesses and don&#8217;t understand the challenges of being a solopreneur and working across the internet.</p>
<p>Another big area I wanted to explore and get some resolution on was the whole thing of my &#8220;long line&#8221; and my <a href="http://ow.ly/1cIfB">&#8220;essence&#8221;</a> - the thing that, when people think about it, would make them think, &#8220;Ah, we should call on Cath for that&#8230;&#8221;<span id="more-2662"></span></p>
<p><strong>I&#8217;ve been pondering my long line for what seems like ages</strong> - at least since 1997 when I finished school all hopeful about the contribution I would make in the big wide world and then hit a wall of analysis-paralysis, confusion, creative block and ultimately depression. I so badly wanted to do something meaningful and positive in the world, I totally understood that I had vast potential and that it was up to me to make it happen, I believed that work should be purposeful and fulfilling, I wanted to give my all, and yet I just didn&#8217;t know how to direct all my creative energy and ended up getting stuck and running dry on ideas and action instead.</p>
<p>Sound anything like you, or am I the only intense, crazy fool here?</p>
<h3>Huh, what&#8217;s a &#8220;long-line,&#8221; Cath?</h3>
<p>Your long line is the overall big picture or the essence of what you want your life to be all about. When a musician reads music, the music is made up of individual notes and on some level they&#8217;re focusing on the individual notes, articulating each note as they play it. But great musicians, once they&#8217;ve learned a piece of music, no longer concentrate consciously on the individual notes anymore. They develop the ability to hold in mind the &#8220;long line&#8221; - the essence of what they&#8217;re wanting to communicate through that piece of music. By having formulated or decided their long line, they tend to play much more smoothly and to be much more creative and adaptive in the moment when they&#8217;re playing and they&#8217;re much better at communicating that essential message of the piece through their performance. (If you&#8217;re interested in pursuing this metaphor further, <a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/benjamin_zander_on_music_and_passion.html">here&#8217;s a video,</a> where world-renowned conductor, Benjamin Zander, explains this idea of the long line in life and music.)</p>
<p><strong>It seems to me that being clear about your long line in your life and work can help you to be more present, adaptable, creative and agile, and more consistent and clear in communicating your essential message to the world.</strong> When you&#8217;re clear on your long line - your overall purpose and values, you don&#8217;t need to focus on goals. You can make your major life decisions by checking in, &#8220;Is this aligned with my long line?&#8221; and &#8220;How am I living my long line right now? How can I adjust what I&#8217;m doing and who I&#8217;m being so that it&#8217;s more aligned with my long line?&#8221;</p>
<p>I have a body of work that&#8217;s been growing inside me and over the past few months I&#8217;ve been feeling like a heavily pregnant woman who can&#8217;t give birth. I have a bunch of chunks of message that are clear to me but it&#8217;s not yet clear how they come together, what the essential message is, and what my long line is. I&#8217;ve been feeling like I need that long line in order to be able to birth this body of work. Know what I mean?</p>
<p><strong>And now I&#8217;m wondering if the idea that thought that, &#8220;I need to have a long line before I can birth this body of work,&#8221; is just a sneaky form of resistance.</strong> Is it true that I need a long line before I can birth this body of work?</p>
<h3>The problem with not having a long line</h3>
<p>I&#8217;d love to just say, &#8220;Thinking I have to have a long line before I can birth this work is a limiting belief and it&#8217;s not true!&#8221; and bust through that belief and get on with birthing and creating. But here&#8217;s where all my &#8220;Yes, buts&#8230;&#8221; come up.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve spent a lot of time studying personal development, thinking skills, creativity and productivity management and a lot of these resources talk about the ability to &#8220;chunk up&#8221; and &#8220;chunk down&#8221; being a crucial skill. Chunking up is about being able to connect the parts and see the big picture and chunking down is about being able to break the big picture down into all the little parts and small steps that need to happen.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m excellent at chunking down. Give me a vision and I&#8217;m a chunking down demon that&#8217;ll help you to figure out your next steps. People who are good at chunking down are usually also really good at focusing on the project, getting stuff done and making stuff happen. Focus and productivity is not a problem for them, and that&#8217;s totally me.</p>
<p>But the shadow side of being great at chunking down is that it leads to mouse vision - seeing just what&#8217;s in front of you, down there on the ground. And then you often miss out on the important perspectives of eagle vision - being able to see the big picture, the overall direction and the long line. So <strong>I&#8217;m pretty convinced that having the mental flexibility to flit between eagle and mouse vision is one of the keys to doing truly great work.</strong></p>
<p>What&#8217;s more, I think there&#8217;s some truth to the idea of having a very clear, tight niche and a short, easy way of saying what you do. The world needs labels for easy communication and understanding, especially when it comes to marketing and leadership.</p>
<h3>The real reason why we want a long line</h3>
<p>So those are some of the rational reasons why we need a long line. But honestly, when I think about it now, I think the REAL reason why I want a long line and why people like to follow people who have a clear long line is because&#8230; <strong>we all like certainty.</strong></p>
<p>It takes a lot of faith, courage and motivation to step out and lead confidently when you only know what your next few steps are, because there&#8217;s always the fear that you&#8217;ll invest loads into that next few steps and then find that it&#8217;s a dead-end or even worse that it leads to failure, pain and regret in some form. It&#8217;s easier to motivate yourself and fend off the &#8220;what-if-I-regret-this&#8221; demons and self doubts when you&#8217;re certain of your long-term plan.</p>
<p>And when we&#8217;re looking to leaders, most people want to follow <a href="http://www.productiveflourishing.com/should-you-be-a-tour-guide-or-an-expedition-leader/">Tour Guides</a> who&#8217;ve pinned down all the details and call tell you for certain what you&#8217;re going to experience if you follow them, rather than <a href="http://www.productiveflourishing.com/should-you-be-a-tour-guide-or-an-expedition-leader/">Expedition Leaders</a> who are inventing the path and learning with you along the way. Expeditions are a lot harder to sell than Tour Guide Packages.</p>
<h3>Yeah, but what do you do if you just aren&#8217;t sure of your long line?</h3>
<p>I definitely don&#8217;t have it all worked out, I often feel lost, alone and scared about my work, and there are still many days when I freak out inside when I see aspiring young entrepreneurs who are complaining about corporate life and excited about gaining their &#8220;freedom to live and work by their own rules&#8221; and I want to sit them down and tell them how hard it actually is to lead your life and work ALL THE TIME, carrying the responsibility of inventing your way forward, and how under-rated the structure, resources, clear boundaries, instructions and feedback mechanisms in corporates are when it comes to growing and shaping your ideas and projects.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m definitely still figuring this stuff out myself, but I think I&#8217;ve learned some stuff about directing your creative energy and doing purposeful work along the way and I think I&#8217;ve found ways to get out of the analysis-paralysis and get on with living and creating and contributing, even if you don&#8217;t have a clear, narrow niche or a simple, clear long-line. Here&#8217;s what I&#8217;ve learned so far:</p>
<h3>1. Realize that other people can often see your essence and your unique value more easily than you can</h3>
<p>One of the greatest things I got out of attending the <a href="http://www.liftoffretreat.com/">Lift-off Workshop</a> was hearing how each of us was struggling with seeing (and valuing) our own essence and the unique contribution we make, and yet everyone else could look at that person and so easily see their unique and valuable essence. I guess when you live with yourself you&#8217;re just too close to it all to see yourself clearly and honestly. Add in the fact that you see and experience your own fears and vulnerabilities everyday - stuff that other people don&#8217;t necessarily see, and its easy to see how your perspective of your own strengths and the value you add can get all cloudy.</p>
<p>It seems that we all wear superhero cloaks that are invisible to us, but totally obvious to everyone else. And as I think about it now, it seems that this is a really good thing - it helps to protect us from arrogance and it means that <strong>you need other people to be able to discover and reveal your superpowers</strong> - just another reason why honest, real intimacy with other people is such a sacred, powerful thing.</p>
<h3>2. Often the thing that you are best at helping other people with is the place where you&#8217;re stuck in your own life</h3>
<p>This is weird. As we went around the room, and people shared what they do and what they&#8217;d come to the retreat for, the basic pattern was, &#8220;I help other people with X, and I&#8217;m hoping to get help with X in my own business.&#8221; We were all stuck in the very place where we&#8217;re so great at un-sticking other people.</p>
<p>Because I had wanted to use the retreat to discover my long line and essence, I took the opportunity to ask the other participants - some of whom are current clients of mine, and many of whom are regular readers here at Mine Your Resources, what they get from me and how they see my unique, essential contribution. They unanimously agreed (in individual conversations) that it&#8217;s my ability to chip away at the clutter and crap and find the essential treasures for other people (mining the resources, huh?), as I do with the Bottom-line Bookclub and in my one-to-one coaching where I help people to get clear about their core values. And here I am, stuck with not being able to see my own essential treasures!</p>
<p>My Social Self jumps in here and says, &#8220;You must be a shit coach if you can&#8217;t help yourself with the stuff that you help other people with. You&#8217;re a hypocrit!&#8221; But I&#8217;m greatly encouraged to realize that this is a pretty universal pattern. And when I think about it now, it makes sense that when you&#8217;re really great at helping other people with a particular change process, often those change tools you use to help other people are so familiar to you that your own conscious mind knows the deal and gets in the way when you try to use those tools on yourself. It&#8217;s as if it&#8217;s saying, &#8220;Oh no, I know where this is going, and I&#8217;m going to resist this change.&#8221; Looking back, the coaches who&#8217;ve helped me the most are the ones that use very different and unfamiliar techniques to the ones I know, so I wasn&#8217;t able to anticipate where they were taking me and get in the way of the change.</p>
<p>It makes sense to me that this is another reason why honest and real connection with other people is such an important part of evolving yourself and discovering your great work. I think, <strong>despite all the resources we all have, we&#8217;re designed to need each other in order to heal and transform our core stuff.</strong></p>
<h3>3. Realize that your long line and life purpose is an evolving, living thing</h3>
<p>A lot of people that talk about life purpose speak as though it&#8217;s something that&#8217;s pre-destined and nicely defined and it&#8217;s your job to go out and search the world and search yourself to find it. And then when you&#8217;ve found it, you can pour all your energy into it and that&#8217;s the secret to success and happiness. It&#8217;s a two-step process of finding what you love doing and then doing it. Simple process, but also pretty scary if you believe this because then you&#8217;ll always be wondering, &#8220;Is this it? Did I find it yet?&#8221;</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve never experienced this simple two-step process and I&#8217;ve yet to find someone else who has. It seems that our life purpose is something that we both decide and find, as if we&#8217;re co-creating it with the universe. And it seems that its not a once-off event. <strong>It&#8217;s an improvised process of making it up as you go, and then making it up again, and again, as opportunities around you change, as your relationships change and as you change.</strong> It&#8217;s a live, growing, evolving thing that is shaped by you but also has some life of its own and surprises you with unexpected twists and turns.</p>
<h3>4. Your essential self delivers your truth in spontaneous, tangential, gradual ways</h3>
<p>The left brain thinks rationally, logically and sequentially but the right brain thinks tangentially and metaphorically. While we would all love to know the plan for the next few years, laid out in a neat, step-by-step bundle, my experience is that the essential self often only reveals the next small step and its only as we take that next small step that the following next small step becomes obvious to us. It&#8217;s as if the road is revealed to us as we walk it. Following your essential self requires faith and courage to step up and lead even though you&#8217;re heading into un-chartered territory.</p>
<p>Having said that, I want to be clear that I don&#8217;t believe in sitting back and waiting for your purpose to be revealed to you. I think your purpose is revealed to you as you take action and step forward. It&#8217;s not a passive thing. Even when you&#8217;re given a message from your essential self, you still often have to actively &#8220;unpack&#8221; that message. Yesterday I was on a call with <a href="http://www.saladltd.co.uk">Jamie Smart</a> and <a href="http://www.phoenix-services.org/">Michael Watson</a> and Jamie said something like, <strong>&#8220;Your unconscious often delivers a message that&#8217;s like flat-pack furniture and you have to open it up and assemble it into a meaningful message that you can use&#8230; and it doesn&#8217;t come with assembly instructions!&#8221;</strong> You have a few pieces of the message and it&#8217;s your job to play around with it and try out different ways of putting it together and see what works.</p>
<p>This distinction that Jamie made really clicked for me. About 6 months ago I got a crystal clear sense that &#8220;Agile Living&#8221; is my thing. Saying and hearing those words made me feel excited, open, motivated and creative. I started using the words &#8220;Agile Living&#8221; on my website, without even being clear on what it means, and now I get regular emails from people saying, &#8220;I really resonate with your idea of Agile Living!&#8221; In the early days, I sometimes wanted to email back and say, &#8220;Fantastic! Would you do me a favor and tell me exactly what it means&#8230;&#8221;</p>
<p>There&#8217;s been a clear energy and momentum developing around the idea of Agile Living and I&#8217;m getting much clearer on what it&#8217;s all about&#8230; but I&#8217;m still unpacking it and assembling it. I have my &#8220;Agile Living e-course, where I&#8217;ve begun to do that, but that&#8217;s the first iteration and I&#8217;m still discovering the essential messages. So look out for an Agile Living Manifesto in the next few months!</p>
<p>Actually, I&#8217;m almost certain that this is a book. It feels like coming home when I think of my &#8220;Agile Living&#8221; book&#8230;. mmmmm.</p>
<h3>5. Do something, even if you&#8217;re not sure whether it&#8217;s the right thing</h3>
<p>I don&#8217;t think you can discover your purpose through paper exercises alone. God, I wish you could, and trust me, I&#8217;ve tried every life purpose exercise I&#8217;ve ever found. At the end of the day, they&#8217;re still just theoretical and you only ever know the truth of what you love and value when you step out and create and experience it for yourself. <strong>There are things you can learn from experience that you can&#8217;t learn by thinking about it.</strong> As you do something, you learn what you like and don&#8217;t like, you learn about your own personality strengths and faults, and you get real-life feedback about how well it fits you. As you take that next step forward, you get to see another step further into the future and it becomes obvious what other possibilities exist.</p>
<p>Over the years, in spite of not knowing what my &#8220;thing&#8221; is, I got on with it and channeled my energies into whatever work I was doing - trauma debriefing, training medical students in empathy skills, selling educational toys to teachers, teaching craft classes to junior school children, volunteering to help build houses with Habitat for Humanity in South Africa, freelance illustration work, painting murals, working in child protection, counseling burned out teachers and medical staff in South Africa, helping run my mother&#8217;s toy and craft shop, training and supervising Social Work students, counseling stressed out call centre agents, supervising and supporting a team of women managing a refuge for women and children who&#8217;ve escaped domestic abuse, counseling women who were in abusive relationships, training supervisors and managers of call centres in communication, leadership, teamwork and empathy, coaching people to figure out what&#8217;s important to them in life and shape their lives around that&#8230; and without ever aiming to end up here with this site and <a href="http://www.bottomlinebookclub.com/">The Bottom-line Bookclub,</a> this is where all of this being, doing, experiencing and learning brought me to.</p>
<p>Naturally, having such a broad range of experience, skills and interests makes it difficult for me to just pick a narrow niche! I&#8217;m really not sure what form my work will take within the next year even, but I&#8217;m learning to trust that by giving my whole self to what I&#8217;m doing and being right now and always moving forward and leading off of that, I&#8217;ll enjoy what I&#8217;m doing now and that future path will be revealed and it&#8217;ll take me to places I love.</p>
<h3>6. Invite other people to co-create with you</h3>
<p>I&#8217;ve always been a fairly independent, self-directed soul and I&#8217;m learning over and over how important real relationships with my tribe are to me. The old model of leadership is that the leader assesses the situation and designs the vision and communicates the vision to the tribe, and if it&#8217;s a worthy vision, the tribe follows. As you can see from this post, I&#8217;m really getting that this is not just me and &#8220;the universe&#8221; co-creating this vision. You&#8217;re all a part of it to. Sure, <strong>it&#8217;s easier to control and plan and manage if I create it all myself, but I&#8217;m pretty sure that&#8217;ll lead to a heart-less, one-dimensional creation.</strong></p>
<p>I know this is a long post jammed full of stuff, but I&#8217;d love to hear your thoughts and responses, even if you take a few days to mull it over. When I get feedback, when you throw in your &#8220;Yes, and&#8230;&#8221; then the shot of energy, clarity and momentum I get is amazing.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not totally sure what we&#8217;re creating or what roles we&#8217;ll all play, but will you come play and co-create it with me?<br />
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<h2>Do You Love Lots of Things And Struggle To Step Up Because You Haven&#8217;t Found a Narrow Niche Yet?</h2>
<p>You may well be a Juggler at heart! So check out the Bottom-line on Ian Sander&#8217;s inspiring book, &#8220;Juggle! Rethink Work, Reclaim Your Life,&#8221; for more about how to invent your own custom-designed life- and work-style that&#8217;s a mix of all the things, people and experiences you love, and how to avoid overwhelm and get stuff done when you&#8217;re juggling a bunch of different projects.</p>
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<p>And if you love the sound of Juggling, and you&#8217;re an Agile Living fan, if you&#8217;re heading out to SXSW, then be sure to come along to Ian&#8217;s <a href="http://my.sxsw.com/events/event/542">&#8220;How to Unplan Your Business Idea&#8221;</a> panel at SXSW and learn how to get moving, improvise and create a business without getting bogged down in a detailed, over-analyzed business plan. Here&#8217;s a short video on unplanning your business, from Ian:</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Many of you will have seen the early editions of the viral video, "Shift Happens." I just found this latest "4.0" version, with updated stats. Mind-blowing stuff! 

The "2 000 000 TVs in bathrooms across the USA" is a little odd though... do people seriously watch TV in the bathroom?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Many of you will have seen the early editions of the viral video, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ljbI-363A2Q">&#8220;Shift Happens.&#8221;</a> I just found this latest &#8220;4.0&#8243; version, with updated stats. Mind-blowing stuff! </p>
<p>The &#8220;2 000 000 TVs in bathrooms across the USA&#8221; is a little odd though&#8230; do people seriously watch TV in the bathroom?<span id="more-2656"></span></p>
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<p>Video source: <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ILQrUrEWe8">xplainvisualthinking</a> and you can find out more about the makers of the video, Karl Fisch and Scott McLoed <a href="http://shifthappens.wikispaces.com/'> over here.</a></p>
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