Recently Corbett and Lea ran a survey for people who are location independent or aspiring to be, and asked all sorts of questions about their aspirations, their fears, and their current life and work positions. Because I see our fears as being the greatest thing that gets in our way of living the lives we want, I was really interested to see what people’s main fears are about location independent living. I loved that the most commonly cited, biggest fears were all about relationships (I think that says a lot about the personal values within this community). People were concerned about how to find and stay connected to the people who are important to them while they’re working at home, in a remote part of the world, or moving around regularly. And they were concerned with handling important relationships with people who don’t understand or support their choice to create a location independent lifestyle.
You know how it can sometimes feel like time is d.r.a.g.g.i.n.g? And and other times it can feel like the time is just flying by, or you just lose track of time altogether while you’re doing something, and then when you look over at your watch, you’re shocked to see that 4 hours have flown by…
Time really does fly when we’re having fun
When we’re doing what we love, and challenging ourselves just a little, we slip into a state that a lot of psychologists and productivity experts call “flow.”
This post is part of my “Real Life (S)heroes” series, where I introduce you to awesome real-life, everyday heroes and sheroes who have inspired me by living large, being fully self-expressed, and making a meaningful contribution, in spite of the risks – this is what Agile Living is all about! I’m sharing these stories with you because one of the biggest sources of stuckness that I come across is when people hit up against a fear and then get stuck in their fears because they’re beating up on themselves for having those fears.
I have the good fortune of hearing about people’s fears from people of all walks of life, and one of the most powerful things that’s done for me has been that I’ve been able to see how “what’s most personal is most general” – in other words, we all basically struggle with the same stuff. And recognizing that can help you to stop judging and fighting your own fears, and invest your energy in moving your “thing” forward instead.
This is an unusual list post because:
1.) I’ve been drinking too much coffee lately and I’ve gotten to the point where completing sentences is…
2.) I went to an A.M.A.Z.I.N.G improv workshop over the weekend and the stuff I learned about myself has totally hit me for a six and I’m still in that non-verbal processing phase (I’ll share more once it becomes verbal and will be vaguely sensible to read!)
3.) I couldn’t sleep last night because I was still so excited about the launch of the Bottom-line Bookclub (and SO much other stuff like… the upcoming Martha Beck Coaches Convention and meeting all the awesome friends I’ve made through the Martha Beck tribe, our USA roadtrip and spending time with my brother and his family, possibilities that we may go live in rural Transkei for a few months at the end of the year, endless new ideas I have for DIY coaching programs I want to create, Andy’s social development project that he’s putting together for January, possibilities that we might go live in snowy Canada after that… and much, much more.) So I’ve had too much coffee again this morning… (refer to point nr 1.)
If you know me well enough by now to know why I’m so stoked about helping you to not just know lots of stuff about personal development, but to actually use it to improve the quality of your life, and you can’t bear waiting anymore to find out more about the Bottom-line Bookclub I’ve re-launched today, then click here and go straight there. You can always come back here afterwards…
It started early
My fascination with the world of personal development and all things related to our internal worlds and what’s below the surface started at a young age, as a result of the influence of an amazing art teacher who’s classes I attended once or twice a week for 15 years from the age of 5. Looking back now, I can see that it was pretty much like being in art therapy for 15 years and I’m
I recently did a talk for a group of consultants, about how to be more influential as a change agent, and I spoke about a few principles that I see as the “essence” of leadership. I feel quite strongly that influential, transformational leadership is much less about your strategy and your behaviour, and much more about WHO YOU’RE BEING – although obviously your behaviour and strategy does need to align with who you’re being. So here’s some of what I shared…
